How to Be Spontaneous in the Bedroom
Looking to improve your sex life? You may have already heard that being spontaneous is a great way to spice things up. Spontaneity often leads it an increase in interest and an increase in satisfaction for sexual encounters. However, some men and women find being spontaneous a lot easier said than done.
Be the One to Initiate Sex
Do not wait for your partner to initiate sex. Why wait? You shouldn’t. In fact, did you know that your partner may be hoping that you start showing more interest in being intimate with them? What better way to do so than to initiate sex yourself?
A creative way to be spontaneous is by using text messages though out the day. If you and your partner have and use cell phones, send sexy and seductive text messages to each other. In addition to text messages, you can also call your partner or send love notes with them when they walk out the door for work.
Jump on It!
Parents often find it difficult to be spontaneous. Even if you are a parent who has children in the house, there are a still a number of ways that you can be spontaneous. Did you just put your children down for bed? Jump on your partner, literally, as soon as your kids leave the room. Most parents want to sit down and relax after their kids have gone to bed, but show your wife that you have other things on your mind.
Take It Out of the Bedroom
Try having sex somewhere other than the bed or bedroom. Use some creativity to find a new place to have sex. Where do you want to have sex? What locations would allow you to try new positions that just can’t be done in a bed? In addition to being intimate in places like on the couch, in a closet, in the bathroom, or on the kitchen table, consider going outside of the home as well, like to a hotel.
Speaking of getting intimate outside of the home, surprise your partner. You can do this by booking a night at a hotel in town. Make sure you choose one that has romantic rooms or an onsite hot tub or swimming pool. If you are a parent, arrange childcare for your children first, like by calling on a trusted friend or family member. Don’t tell your partner about your plans until you are ready to leave, as being spontaneous involves surprising them.Content Created/Medically Reviewed by our Expert Doctors